Dating Well by Design is for the woman who has built a full life— and wants a love that feels just as grounded.
Real love isn't found. It's built— with clarity, capacity, and the skills no one taught you.
It took a decade. Tens of thousands of dollars. More online courses than I can count, hundreds of books, hours lost to YouTube and Instagram — you get the picture.
None of it worked. Not until I found the five pillars of Dating Well by Design — which turned out to be the pillars of living, and loving, well.
Kim Obrist, MSW
Psychology/Human Behavior
Real love is an energy exchange. You can't exchange what you haven't built. That's what we build with the H.E.A.R.T. Blueprint .
Most women I work with are already doing the work of dating — they're on the apps, they're going on dates, they're putting in real effort. What's missing isn't effort. It's capacity.
The capacity of your body and energy, your voice and calm, your truth and standards, your ease in receiving, and your joy in staying in it. Recognizing aligned love when it's in front of them, and the capacity to meet it when it shows up.
This isn't advice you apply once and hope works. It's designing the well being that aligned love meets.
I combined decades of expertise in psychology and human behavior with the personally lived journey of transformation.
I've been exactly where you are.
Some are dating again after a long time away, still finding their footing.
Others have been dating a while, and noticing patterns they can't fully explain.
You don’t have to know how yet. The journey starts wherever you are.
Aligned love is closer than you think.
HOW AM I SHOWING UP FOR LOVE?
Start by seeing your own pattern clearly.
Gentle. Clarifying. Insightful.
A FEW MINUTES. FREE. PRIVATE.
I know all too well what it's like to end up with the wrong person, again and again.
Now I know what aligned love feels like. And what I understand now is this: I wasn't as far from it as I thought. I just didn't know what I didn't know.
The shift wasn't a transformation into someone new. It was becoming the woman I truly loved — layer by layer, choice by choice.
I'm clear about who I am. I'm grounded in what I value. I became open to the love that meets me there — and I met someone who loves her just as much.
That's what I walk women through now. Because once you know what you didn't know, everything changes.