"You're a woman over 50 attracting the same disappointing patterns—emotionally unavailable partners, surface connections, exhausting cycles—and you're ready for something different."
What If You:
★ Showed up authentically and attract alignment
★ Identified true compatibility with confidence
★ Communicated with clarity
★ Evaluated for character, not just chemistry
★ Opened yourself to being pursued and appreciated
★ Felt deeply seen
Discover where YOU are and your most powerful next step.
You've Tried the Tactics. Now it's Time for Transformation
Foundation first. Skills second. Partnership third.
From swipe fatigue, ghosting & breadcrumbing -->To using with energy and presence
From hoping "this one" would be different-->To being selective from a place of clarity
From "better photos" & wittier bio--> To an authentic profile attracting the right people
From worrying that you're settling->To clarifying what you need
From escaping the "cycle"->To spending time purposefully strengthening your foundation
I know what it's like to date after loss.
After ending a 21-year marriage, I found myself in completely new territory. And despite having years of experience in human behavior and psychology, I was clueless about the journey ahead.
I attracted emotionally unavailable partners. I ignored the yellow flags (which eventually turned red). I found myself performing who I thought someone else wanted instead of being myself.
The breakthrough came when I stopped focusing outward and started building inward.
I rebuilt my emotional foundation—my capacity for self-care, emotional regulation, authentic self-knowledge, resilience, and joy. From that place of wholeness, everything shifted.
Not just who I attracted, but how I showed up. How I communicated. What I would and wouldn't accept. The quality of connection I experienced.
Today I'm in the healthiest relationship of my life—not because I found a perfect person, but because I became whole first.
That's what I share through Dating Well By Design.
The inside-out approach that starts with your well-being, develops your relationship skills, and creates the capacity for the partnership you truly desire.
My commitment to you:
I combine decades of expertise in psychology and human behavior with the personally lived journey of transformation. I've been exactly where you are. I know what doesn't work. And I know what does.
This work changes everything—not just your romantic life, but the quality of all your relationships and your entire life experience.
Your inner state determines who you attract.
(You attract people who drain you more than they nourish you)
(You attract people who pull away from your intensity or exploit it)
(You attract people who want the role, not the real you)
(You attract people who take advantage of your lack of clarity)
(You attract people you hope to complete you, not complement you)
Whether you go deep or just dip a toe in, whether you do it alone or alongside other women — the H.E.A.R.T. journey will enhance your life and relationships by adding more joy and peace.
However far you go, it's worth it.
The 5 Pillars of the H.E.A.R.T. Foundation
Each pillar of the H.E.A.R.T. Foundation has its own FREE QUIZ. Find the one that speaks to where you are right now or take all five and see the full picture of their starting point.
Build Sustainable Energy and Vitality
Your Self-Care Story: How Are You Writing Your Wellness Chapter?
If you have been giving everyone your best and saving nothing for yourself, this is where your journey begins.
Free. 5 minutes. Your first act of self-care starts here.
Develop centered Calm
Boundaries and Energy Quiz: How Do They Work Together in Your Life?
If a single unanswered text can unravel your whole evening, this pillar was built for you.
Free. 5 minutes. Finally, clarity about what you're feeling.
Clarify Who You Are and What You Want
The Inner Compass Quiz: How Authentic Do You Live in Alignment with Your Values?
If you spent years becoming who everyone else needed, it's time to meet yourself again.
Free. 5 minutes. Meet the woman who's waiting for you.
Strengthen Your Capacity to Adapt
The Resilience & Peace Quiz: How Do You Take Care of Yourself When Life Gets Hard?
If rejection still echoes longer than it should, this is where you build the foundation that changes that.
Free. 5 minutes. Discover the strengths you have already.
Nurture Being Fully Present
The Joy Audit: Is there a Place for Happiness in Your Life?
If dating feels like a chore and joy feels like a distant memory, this pillar will change everything.
Free. 5 minutes. You've waited long enough to feel joy
The 5 Pillars of H.E.A.R.T. Relationship Skills
Show Up as Your Authentic Self
Speak Your Needs, Boundaries and Feelings
Connect Through Genuine Questions that Reveal Character
Allow Yourself to be Chosen, Cherished and Cared For
Nurture the Relationship Through Intentionality
You Are Ready To:
✓ Be in a partnership that energizes you, not exhausts you
✓ Experience genuine reciprocity in all levels of intimacy
✓ Build something real with someone who has done their own inner work
✓ Show up authentically instead of performing
✓ Honor your time and energy to invest in what truly works
You Acknowledge:
✓ There are no quick fixes without inner work
✓ Manipulation tactics do not "catch" a quality partner
✓ Blaming "all men" without considering who you're attracting and why doesn't build your foundation
✓ You are genuinely ready for a real, committed relationship
This isn't about fixing what's broken. It's about building what's possible.
If you're ready to invest in genuine transformation—the kind that changes not just your romantic life but your entire relationship with yourself—you're in exactly the right place.
"I spent two years on dating apps getting nowhere. After doing the H.E.A.R.T. work, I attracted a completely different caliber of man within weeks. The difference? I was finally whole."
"Kim's approach saved me from wasting another year on an emotionally unavailable man. I learned to recognize the signs early and walk away with my dignity intact."
"I thought I was 'ready to date.' The quiz showed me I needed to work on my foundation first. Best decision I ever made. When I finally started dating, everything was different."
STEP 1: TAKE THE QUIZ
Discover Where Your Journey Begins
20 honest questions reveal which of the six patterns is keeping you from the relationship you want.
STEP 2: "YOUR" H.E.A.R.T. Practice Workbook
Each quiz has its own workbook -a guided companion that takes the insight off the screen & into real life.
❤︎ Self-Paced Workbooks- Individual Foundation H.E.A.R.T. practices ($29)
❤︎ Complete Foundation - All five Pillars ($128)
❤︎ Guided Program - 8-week cohort with coaching & community ($290)
Step 3: DATE with STRATEGY
Once your foundation is solid:
❤︎ Curious Heart Dating Method - Complete dating roadmap ($47)
❤︎ Monthly Coaching - Ongoing support during your dating journey ($56/month)
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WITH A SOLID FOUNDATION AND CLEAR STRATEGY, YOU'LL:
❤︎ Attract a different caliber of people
❤︎ Recognize incompatibility quickly
❤︎ Navigate dating with confidence
❤︎ Build healthy attachment
❤︎ Create the partnership you truly desire
Discover exactly which H.E.A.R.T. pillar to strengthen first for your unique journey.
Frequently Asked Questions
"I've already done so much personal work. Do I really need Phase 1?"
Many accomplished women have done personal development but haven't specifically built their dating foundation. The quiz will show you exactly where you stand. You might be ready for Phase 2—or you might discover one specific pillar that needs strengthening first.
"How long does this take?"
Foundation building is individual—some women need 4-8 weeks, others 3-6 months. The key is that when you build properly, the changes last. Rushing into dating before you're ready means repeating old patterns.
"What if I'm already dating someone?"
The H.E.A.R.T. Methodology works whether you're single, dating, or in a relationship. A solid foundation helps you navigate existing relationships with more clarity and confidence.
"Is this only for women dating men?"
While the language references dating men, the inside-out principles apply to anyone seeking authentic partnership. The foundation work is universal.
"Can I just skip to the dating strategy?"
You can—but you'll likely repeat old patterns. Foundation determines who you attract. Strategy helps you choose wisely. Both are essential for lasting change.